Header files are now self-contained, which makes the relationships
between the files clearer, and crucially allows LSP tools like `clangd`
to function correctly in all of our header files. I have verified that
the headers are self-contained (aside from the various Windows shims) by
compiling them as if they were C files – in a follow-up commit I plan to
add this to CI to ensure we don't regress on this front.
This pulls out the various abstractions where some stats counter is sometimes an
atomic, sometimes a plain variable, sometimes always protected by a lock,
sometimes protected by reads but not writes, etc. With this change, these cases
are treated consistently, and access patterns tagged.
In the process, we fix a few missed-update bugs (where one caller assumes
"protected-by-a-lock" semantics and another does not).
