Header files are now self-contained, which makes the relationships
between the files clearer, and crucially allows LSP tools like `clangd`
to function correctly in all of our header files. I have verified that
the headers are self-contained (aside from the various Windows shims) by
compiling them as if they were C files – in a follow-up commit I plan to
add this to CI to ensure we don't regress on this front.
This change pulls the SEC options into a struct, which simplifies their handling
across various modules (e.g. PA needs to forward on SEC options from the
malloc_conf string, but it doesn't really need to know their names). While
we're here, make some of the fixed constants configurable, and unify naming from
the configuration options to the internals.
