This change allows every allocator conforming to PAI communicate that it
deferred some work for the future. Without it if a background thread goes into
indefinite sleep, there is no way to notify it about upcoming deferred work.
This change pulls the SEC options into a struct, which simplifies their handling
across various modules (e.g. PA needs to forward on SEC options from the
malloc_conf string, but it doesn't really need to know their names). While
we're here, make some of the fixed constants configurable, and unify naming from
the configuration options to the internals.
